I hope everyone is looking forward to the upcoming holiday. If you are not, you have two weeks to see what you can do to change that. Maybe some of your family are overseas; perhaps they have passed on. Maybe you dread the relatives or just all the work involved.

The remedies are not always easy, but they are simple. First and foremost, reach out. Make a new friend or find a old one. Make amends well in advance. Practice gratefulness. If you can't, find someone less well off than you and brighten their day.

Then plan.

Plan a great day. Plan the meal and a beautiful table setting, even if it is for just two people. Include time honored favorite dishes. Then take a walk on the culinary wild side. I suggest Pinterest.com for ideas. And by all means make the feast at least partially pot luck.

Thanksgiving is a celebration of gratitude. Gratitude is turning out to be a key aspect of mental health. It should be practiced everyday like an exercise, especially if it doesn't come naturally. A few of us in my family write down three things every day for which we are grateful. It's easy, quick and effective.

When you get your Thanksgiving meal made and laid out beautifully, look, really look at it. Then consider all for which you can be grateful.